As an assault survivor, I’m having a tough time with the now-constant news about big-time predators finally being taken down. It’s not that I’m not glad their victims are finally being heard – I’ve been there, I’m proud of them, I’m rooting for them – but it’s that of all the crappy news we’re facing this year, this is the area that taxes my defences. It gets into my head and into my daily life.
Yesterday I hit maximum suck. I caught myself going grey inside. I started feeling like a nuclear war might be a good thing.
This isn’t healthy, and as a survivor I have to look after myself first before I support others. If I’m reaching this point, I know a lot of other survivors out there are too. The fight against this crap is our daily reality; adding more on top of that load isn’t helping anyone as it hurts us.
If this is that moment for you too, it’s time to deploy the emergency glitter in your life.
Make your priority your own health, not your culture’s.
Find whatever is that makes you safe, upbeat, hopeful, inspired, connected to others and do it.
Things that have helped me with this:
doodling / ukelele / dancing in the dark / sparkly makeup / wearing pyjamas all day / going to bed at 8’o’clock / getting up to see the sun rise / going camping without internet / climbing a mountain / re-reading favourite books / writing poetry / adorning myself with beauty / decaf coffee / stargazing / deleting social media accounts / watching children’s films / eating porridge with cinnamon / making a bullet journal / getting new pens / planning a novel / teaching someone a skill / knitting and sewing / growing succulents / taking hot tea into a forest / looking at old holiday photos / feeding my altar / cuddling up in a handmade quilt
We’re warriors, but we don’t have to fight every day. We don’t have to fight at all; by the very act of thriving, we’re changing the world.